So I was reading this news of a 23-year-old boy, who jumped off from the 19th floor of a posh five-star hotel, under the influence of alcohol. After the investigation it was found that he left a suicide note in which he wrote depression and drug use had taken a toll on his life. He also recorded a video tutorial on how to commit suicide, which has since gone viral on social media.
According to WHO, about 8,00,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year. Hence, many millions of people are affected or experience suicide bereavement every year. Suicide occurs throughout the lifespan and is the second leading cause of death among 15-29 year olds globally.
The term ‘Suicide’, does not mean just to take one’s own life, but it comes with a deep background. The thought of committing suicide generates through a harsh and depressing mental state. As I came to know about innumerable cases of suicide this year, I gave a sincere thought about ‘why people commit suicide?’, ‘what makes them to choose death over life?’ and I found plenty of elements that builds up the thoughts of committing suicide. The most observed reasons I found were-
- Sense of burden- The mind set in a person that he or she is a liability or a burden in someone’s life, creates a sense of low self- worth or makes the person feel that his or her life is worthless, that their loved ones would be better off without them, which results to a negative thought process.
- Sense of emotional pain- The sufferings which makes the person emotionally weak, eradicates the thinking power to find solutions to the problems and the person finds it better to take his own life to escape the negative feelings.
- Hopelessness- People lose hope that their lives are not going to get better, that there is no end to their hardships and death is the only solution for the termination of their sufferings.
In general, people do not commit suicide because they are in pain, they commit suicide because they don’t believe there is a reason to live and the world will be better off without them.
However, the good news is that these thoughts can be resolved and the world is not over yet. The universe provides solution for everything, it’s us who need to take a step and adopt one. If you are sane enough to diagnose that negativity in you or in somebody else, then you are definitely sane enough to act positively on it too.
There are plenty of ways and measures which can be taken by oneself. One can always-
a) Meditate- Things get better when you just delegate all your problems to the universe and relax. Sit back, close your eyes and calm your soul down. You can add one more good thing to it by reminding all of the good moments of your life, the happy memories which make you feel that life is something to live and not to give up on.
b) Self- Appreciation- “I can’t achieve anything in life”, “I’m such a burden on my family”, and “I’m incapable to achieve things” are some of the polluted thoughts that everyone feels once in a while but that doesn’t mean we truly are like this; negativity molds our thoughts in such a way. Self-appreciation is an important tool to cope with these thoughts. Make a list of all the things you feel good about you and your achievements till date in your life. Big or small, every achievement matters because you achieved it and you matter.
c) Travel- However it might sound like travel has got nothing to do with curing suicidal thoughts, but trust me, it plays a great role. When we travel, we come in contact with new people, new atmosphere, new places and with positive energies. Travel is not just about visiting places, but also about regenerating a new “aura”. We get refreshed and by that our thought process gets sort out too. So, whenever you feel like ending your life, just pack your bags and travel to the places you didn’t visit yet.
d) Spend time with your loved ones- There are the times in life, when one of our family members suffers through difficult times like health issues, financial crisis, emotional torment and so on. It has an impact on other members too because each one of us are emotionally connected to each other. Sometimes, those pain and problems affect the other members of the family and the suicidal thoughts come to existence to escape the bitter reality. It is then, most important to have a mindset that- committing suicide won’t help too. Rather it will make the situation worse. Each one of our lives are connected to several other people. If we mess with our life, it will certainly going to affect others too, to the ones we care for. Problems are the part and parcel of life and without them we won’t be able to learn to how to tackle them. In the bad times, try to support your loved ones, spend good time with them, cherish each other’s presence and value the love you received till yet. After all, this is life, nothing is permanent here, not even our troubles.
e) Music as stress buster- Music is considered as a great healer. The calmness of sound of music, delivers relaxation and settles the polluted thoughts in the mind. Listen to whatever genre you are fond of and you will feel better. Also, a musical get together can be organized. Form a group with your close friends, have a get together and sing along some good music together that will create a positive atmosphere.
f) Motivational Stuff- To keep yourself motivated towards your life goals in a harsh world like today’s, involve yourself into some activities and stuff which motivates you or fill your soul with positive energy. Watch motivational videos or movies. You can involve yourself in reading good books. Do have a chat or always get into contact with a person who inspires you for a positive life, like me! Jk 😉
g) Sleep- Well I feel that this should be the first measure to cure suicidal thoughts, but if no measure seems to work, just forget about the things which are bothering you and relax. The universe will take care of it, you got to sleep better.
Although, I’ve never been to the extremity of this topic personally in my life, but I realized that it is an important one and it requires my sincere attention.
I hope, the measures I recognized will help you in some way. Do help those who are in need.
In the end, I would love to remind you that you are a lovely creation of god. You matter. Your life matters and nothing is worth taking your life for.
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